Comment on Leo knew it was a joke and laughed because it was just a joke
barsoap@lemm.ee 5 days agoThe frontal cortex matures from roughly 14 to the early 20s, characteristic of that age is to be both impulsive and confused, while the cortex is already fully functional you’re still figuring out what to actually use it for.
That is: In the early 20s you become fully adult. Not in the legal sense (that’s usually 18), but biologically. You’re a grown-up. To argue that they can’t make their own decisions is highly infantilising.
stebo02@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 days ago
how can you call 30 years “a bit older” lmao
I wasn’t blaming the women though so what you’re saying here is irrelevant. Leo is using his status of fame and whealth to get very young women to date him, and replaces them with someone younger after a few years. Legal? Yes. Creepy? Also yes.
barsoap@lemm.ee 4 days ago
So you’re not blaming the women, you’re not saying that they don’t know what they’re getting into, either, everyone knows what Leo is up to, so you’re calling Leo creepy for – not questioning decisions the women make?
There’s also a weird characterisation of agency, here. You’re only characterising Leo as an active participant, not the women, you’re saying what Leo does is use things that he has, passively (fame, wealth), to actively “get” women. I’d be much more convinced if you said he’s a good flirt. Are women such passive creatures that when they see someone rich and famous, they just cannot help themselves but spread their legs? I find it hard to reconcile such a narrative with feminism, it’s absolutely regressive.
stebo02@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 days ago
I’m calling him creepy for not questioning his own decisions. “Why am I dating someone who could be my daughter? Shouldn’t I be with someone my age?” Instead of “Oh you’re a model and just turned 18? That’s perfect!”
barsoap@lemm.ee 4 days ago
Maybe, instead of not asking those questions, he answers them in a way that you do not agree with? Maybe even based on factors that you overlook?
I’m not quite as old as Leo but that frontal cortex thing is a very hard cutoff. You seem to be very focussed on the “18” thing, that’s not how human development and attraction works. According to the chart he has not dated an 18yold since he was 26.
sudneo@lemm.ee 4 days ago
And this notion that you should date only people your age where does it come from? It seems a completely arbitrary moral claim to me.