Comment on The guardian on Joe Rogan's popularity in Aus, and some peoples' reasons for listening.
DavidDoesLemmy@aussie.zone 4 days agoMen don’t have to have male friends to not be lonely. Any friends will do. I have lots of great female friends.
As far as solving domestic violence, I don’t know how to do that. But I think we can all agree that we want it to end. Probably even the perpetrators of DV want it to end.
Maybe a big part of it is finding those who are most likely to be perpetrators and try to understand them better. And help them better understand themselves.
naevaTheRat@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 days ago
I do note an interesting difference in your approach to how to handle DV vs how to handle someone stringing a wire across a bike path. It may be a contradiction you wish to reflect on.
You might want to read this book to get a better idea behind the psychology of DV.
DavidDoesLemmy@aussie.zone 4 days ago
What are you doing to prevent DV? (Not a challenge, I’m genuinely curious if you’re part of any efforts)
naevaTheRat@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 days ago
So if you read that book, or look into any of the research behind DV you will learn that it’s not really a problem women can confront at the source because the psychology behind it is one which fundamentally views women as inferior. In the same way if someone is racist somebody from a group they hate is unlikely to meet with much success trying to change their views (at best probably getting recognition as “one of the good ones”) women talking to men about why we’re actually whole-arse people doesn’t work very well.
Aside from trying in vain to get men to learn literally anything about why DV happens and why they can actually make a massive difference talking to their mates and setting norms for acceptable ideas about women at work/at the gym/at the club etc it’s not really in my means to donate to a shelter or whatever. I do volunteer for the greens around elections.
That said, being a woman in society there’s the sort of basic keeping an eye on things. Making a point to chat with neighbours, hosting drinks, sharing food etc that gives you a bit of a chance to have a network of support for people, victims tend to hide the harm believing themselves to be at fault so there’s not a good chance you’ll actually know. You can call a welfare check on a house if you hear a nasty fight but it’s unlikely to do much.
DavidDoesLemmy@aussie.zone 3 days ago
Your book looks like an American thing. I try not to consume too much yank media. I read “See what you made me do” by Jess Hill a few years ago. Is it significantly different to that?
DavidDoesLemmy@aussie.zone 4 days ago
There’s a difference between prevention and punishment. I believe people who kill their spouse (or attempt to on multiple occasions) should be imprisoned for life.