Here is an odd take:

In the CSI episode Ellie, The eponymous Ellie Brass is caught up in a situation, and Warrick is sent to work his forensic magic. In the end, after dealing with Ellie’s attitude throughout, Brass tells Warrick Ellie is the result of an affair, but she doesn’t know, and believs Brass is her bio-dad.

Ellie was a popular episode, so the character became recurring.

With the population so high, I’m personally not desperate to see my genes perpetuated. It was drilled into me that having kids in poverty is a really bad idea, also I never thought I’d be a good dad (though I get to do dad stuff for my adult stepdaughters and grandpa stuff for their kids so it goes.) For most of my life having kids was off my agenda.

Granted, my wife and I would still have to sort out matters of the affair. If relationship exclusivity was betrayed or communication was lacking, she and I would have to sort that out.

And yet If we were in a position to raise children, then it wouldn’t matter to me if the genes were mine or someone else’s. I would still be a dad or at least a participatory adult involved in raising them. They’d grow up with my values and be witting and deliberate when they rejected them.

Of course I’m mad enough to be a regular at the March Hare’s tea room (🐰🎩🫖☕️) so hopefully I wouldn’t inflict that on them too much.