It's not X, it's Y

Also you've got some kind of agenda in these comments buddy, the dog whistles are screaming loud.

Unless you win the lottery and have a family or partner who doesn't view you as 'man'.

Please see a licensed therapist. You'll be giving them a run for their money with all they'd have to unpack but, if you don't have anyone in your life you can talk to openly, a therapist can be that person.