THAT PARTICULAR TIME – Alanis Morissette (song meaning)
NOT a typical breakup song.
It's the recogition that an attachment between two people is constantly costing the other person to sacrifice all of their needs in order to maintain THAT relationship. So leaving is the only option to preserve the “self”, otherwise the costs of remaining in it are way too high and exceeding the benefit to maintain it. It's about still loving and caring about the person but knowing that the dynamic can never work.