It’s the hiding behind being “busy” that drives me completely insane.
Everyone knows the truth:
nobody is ever too busy to send a five-second text to someone who actually matters to them. People make time for what they prioritize. Period.
When you use “busy” as an umbrella excuse, it feels like a total lack of respect for my intelligence and my time. It’s a way to avoid an uncomfortable, adult conversation.
What I’m asking for isn't dramatic, needy, or unreasonable. It’s just basic emotional maturity:
• If your feelings shifted, just say it. • If you don't have the capacity to engage right now, just own it.
Give me the truth so I can process it, adapt, and move on with my life; don't keep me hanging in ambiguity just to save yourself from a moment of awkwardness. Your silence and your “busy” excuses are telling me everything you’re too afraid to say out loud. You don't have the courage to offer me direct honesty, so you're just letting this starve on the vine instead.
NM